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Lil Nas X opens up about suicidal thoughts and teenage gay shame in powerful new video – Yahoo Eurosport UK

Lil Nas X dropped his “Sun Goes Down” video – and it’s an emotional one.

Everyone’s new favourite pop icon has been teasing the “important” song for a few days, and upon its release fans were blown away by its introspective lyrics and moving music video.

The guitar-laced track sees Lil Nas X recalling how he was “haunted” by “these gay thoughts” and would pray to God to “take it from me”.

“Send me a gun and I’ll see the sun,” he sings in the chorus – ultimately realising: “I’m happy by the way / That I made that jump, that leap of faith.

“I’m happy that it all worked out for me / I’ma make my fans so proud of me.”

The “Sun Goes Down” video shows Lil Nas X visiting his teenage self, who is struggling with loneliness and his identity, working at a Taco Bell, stanning Nicki Minaj and taking classes at high school.

The clip, which was directed by Nas alongside Psycho Films, concludes with him offering support and love to his younger self, who then proceeds to dance joyously at his prom.

Fans were in agreement that “Sun Goes Down” is both an emotional gut punch and a certified bop.

One fan shared that listening to the song made them experience “repressed memories of queerphobia”.

For many queer people, the lyrics “hit a little too close to home”.

Even Taco Bell tweeted about “Sun Goes Down”, saying it had the track “currently on repeat”. Nas responded: “we want the lil nas x meal”. And yes.

Lil Nas X will be the musical guest for this weekend’s Saturday Night Live finale. He’ll appear on the show alongside The Queen’s Gambit actress Anya Taylor-Joy, who will be hosting, and will perform both “Sun Goes Down” and “Montero”.

“Sun Goes Down” is the second single Lil Nas X has released this year, following March’s “Montero (Call Me By Your Name)” and its mythology-inspired video that will live on in internet infamy.

Suicide is preventable. Readers who are affected by the issues raised in this story are encouraged to contact Samaritans on 116 123 (www.samaritans.org), or Mind on 0300 123 3393 (www.mind.org.uk). ​

Readers in the US are encouraged to contact the National Suicide Prevention Line on 1-800-273-8255.

Singapore Rebukes US Embassy Over LGBT Rights Event – The Diplomat

Singapore’s government has told the U.S. Embassy “not to interfere” in local matters after it hosted a webinar with local LGBT advocates earlier this week. The invitation-only webinar, held to mark International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia on Monday, was co-hosted by the embassy and the LGBT rights organization Oogachaga.

In a terse statement Wednesday, the Ministry of Foreign Affairs (MFA) “reminded the U.S. Embassy that foreign missions here are not to interfere in our domestic social and political matters, including issues such as how sexual orientation should be dealt with in public policy.” It added, “These are choices for only Singaporeans to debate and decide.”

Founded in 1999, Oogachaga describes itself as “a community-based, non-profit, professional organization working with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning and queer (LGBTQ+) individuals, couples, and families.”

In comments to Channel News Asia, Oogachaga’s executive director Leow Yangfa expressed “surprise” over the MFA statement. He said the group had received no funding from the U.S. government, and that “at least two” officials from the Singaporean Ministry of Social and Family Development had attended the webinar.

The MFA’s response reflects the social conservatism of the People’s Action Party (PAP), which has ruled Singapore since its independence in 1965. Gay marriage isn’t recognized in the city-state and sex between men is also criminalized.

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The repeal of Section 377A of the colonial-era Penal Code, which prohibits “any act of gross indecency with another male person,” has become a key goal of Singaporean LGBT rights activists, though a court dismissed an attempt to overturn the legislation last year.

The PAP’s conservatism is largely reflected in the attitudes of the population at large, although as a recent article in Vice points out, things may be changing. The article cited a 2019 survey by the National University of Singapore’s Institute of Policy Studies that found opposition to gay marriage had fallen from 74 per cent in 2013 to 60 per cent in 2018. It also found that found that six in 10 Singaporeans aged 18 to 25 believed that gay marriage was not wrong at all, or not wrong in most cases, five times more than the number of respondents aged 65 and above who felt the same way

Anecdotally, the more liberal attitude of young Singaporeans is reflected in the growing number of people participating in Pink Dot, Singapore’s version of Pride, which has taken place since 2009.

The Singaporean government’s prickly response also hints at the occasional sharp differences over questions of principle that have punctuated the city-state’s relationship with its Western partners, including the United States.

In 1988, the Singaporean government expelled an American diplomat after he met and allegedly cultivated opponents of the PAP, which Singapore claimed amounted to interference in its internal affairs. An official statement issued at the time accused the diplomat and his superiors of acting “as if they were the colonial power and Singapore their protectorate.”

These differences, and the PAP’s anti-colonial reflex, later found expression in the “Asian values” debate of the 1990s, during which Prime Minister Lee Kuan Yew and other Singaporean officials were active combatants against those asserting the universality of liberal values and human rights.

In response to the Singaporean statement, a spokesperson for the U.S. Embassy in Singapore stated that “it works with civil society partners on a wide range of issues to build awareness and advance the human rights of all persons,” adding, “We will continue to promote human rights of LGBTQI+ persons worldwide.”

As an addendum, it is worth noting that the U.S. government is a relatively recent convert to the LGBT cause. The participation in such an event would have been unlikely prior to 2012, when Barack Obama became the first U.S. president to express his support for gay marriage, or even 2015, when the Supreme Court ruled in favor of same-sex marriage.

Ryan O’Connell Is Passionate About Special’s Realistic Gay Sex Scenes – Yahoo Entertainment

TVLine.com

Adam Levine Returning to The Voice After Almost 4 Seasons — Here’s Why

After sitting out Seasons 17-20 of The Voice, Adam Levine is returning to the NBC sing-off for Tuesday’s finale (8/7c). The former coach won’t be mentoring any of the remaining contestants, though; he’s just part of the two-hour episode’s star-studded guest lineup. As such, he and Maroon 5 will perform their latest hit, “Beautiful Mistakes” […]

Herkimer, Mohawk Valley men, women square off in regional soccer finals – The Times Telegram

HERKIMER – The Region III soccer season sets up to end the way it started for two top seeds from Mohawk Valley Community College. The Mohawk Valley men and women travel to Herkimer College’s Wehrum Stadium on Friday for a Division III championship doubleheader Friday against the Generals.

The undefeated and third-ranked Mohawk Valley men started their 4-0-0 season with a 3-1 win over the fourth-ranked Generals (4-1-1) April 9. Herkimer has not lost since and will have coach Pepe Aragon Jr on the sideline for the rematch.

Herkimer had already played Monroe Community College with the women taking a loss and the men playing to a scoreless draw.

The Mohawk Valley women also are unbeaten (3-0-1) and ranked third in the nation. The Hawks also won 3-1 at Herkimer in April. The Generals are now 3-2-0 and ranked fourth nationally with victories in their last three matches.

Mohawk Valley Community College freshman Reilly Rich (15) shields the ball from Herkimer College's Emma Bilinski and tries to turn it up the field during the teams' April 9 match in Herkimer. Rich, the region's leading goal-scorer, and the Hawks return to Wehrum Stadium for Friday's Region III championship match.

The regional playoffs were trimmed to single matches for the abbreviated spring season with the top seeds intended to host championship matches. Mohawk Valley declined hosting and the Herkimer women completed the championship field with a come-from-behind 3-2 win over Genesee Community College May 11.

Friday’s winners advance to the NJCAA’s national tournaments, which also were changed by COVID-19 scheduling. Herkimer was supposed to be the site for the women’s championship for the fall of 2020. Wehrum Stadium will instead host the men June 2-5 while the women head to Union County College in Cranford, New Jersey.

The men play first Friday with a 4 p.m. start. The women are scheduled to begin play at 6:15 p.m.

The women’s match features several key players familiar to area fans from their high school days. Mohawk Valley’s Reilly Rich, Isabella Bunce and goalie Cierra Doolen and Herkimer’s Jazmyn Gillette were teammates at Central Valley Academy.

The Generals also have high school graduates from Herkimer (Kurstin Gay), Dolgeville (Emma Bilinski, Alexis Smith and Hannah Spofford), Poland (Carliza Roark), Oppenheim-Ephratah-St. Johnsville (Abigail Johnson), Canajoharie (Taya Yacobucci), Sauquoit Valley (Raquel Burton), Whitesboro (Kayla Alsheimer), Clinton (Erika Arancio), Oneida (Kayla Suppa), Gloversville (Sydney Loux) and Morrisville-Eaton (Lizzie Spring), and Hailey Traut, a freshman from Frankfort-Schuyler is the current United Soccer Coaches Junior College Player of the Week and Region III Athlete of the Week for women’s soccer.

The Hawks’ roster represents Frankfort-Schuyler (Gianna DeSarro), Mt. Markham )Lily Briggs), Adirondack (Ciara Schaffner), Waterville (Taylor Hajdasz), Oriskany (Taylor Reid), Whitesboro (Alyssa Della Posta and Ariana Della Posta), Canastota (Alexandria Phillips), Clinton (Skyler Jones), Utica-Proctor (Nicole Casab and Emily Berube), Rome Free Academy (Katharine Balog), and Johnstown (Jenna Thompson).

Rich, who transferred back to the area from Nazareth College, tied Genesee’s Ashley Bliss for the region’s regular season goal-scoring lead with eight, including a hat trick against Genesee and four goals against Finger Lakes Community College in her last match May 4. Berube and Alyssa Della Posta each has scored three goals, Jenna Thompson has two, and Casab leads the Hawks with three assists. Doolen, who transferred from Russell Sage College, has one shutout at the back end of a defense that has allowed eight goals this spring.

Traut is the top scorer for the Herkimer women with five goals and four assists. Suppa has scored four goals, including two match-winners, while Gillette has two goals with four assists, and Smith also has two goals. Gay and the Herkimer defense have allowed nine goals this season but shut out two of their final three opponents.

Traut and Gillette are tied for second in assists in Region III. Traut assisted each of Herkimer’s goals in the 3-2 win over Genesee, all in the second half, including a tying goal by Bilinski and a winner by Suppa in the final four minutes of regulation play.

The high scorers for the men’s teams are Douglas Barrera Yanes (4 goals-1 assist), Fabio Hinojosa Jimenez (3-0), Houssam Serhan (3-2) and Andres Esteban Flores (0-4) for Mohawk Valley, and  Ali Somow (6-1), Christ Valle (3-3), Alex Charles (2-3) and Heath Lucas (1-3) for Herkimer. Somow is the region’s top goal-scorer and Esteban Flores is second in assists. Manabu Takahashi has allowed four of the eight goals scored against the Herkimer defense while Carlos Acosta Viquez and the Hawks have allowed three goals as a team.

Jon Rathbun is a sportswriter for the Times Telegram. For unlimited access to his stories, please subscribe or activate your digital account today. Email Jon at sports@timestelegram.com.

Vietnam’s first openly gay candidate runs for parliament – Yahoo Singapore News

South China Morning Post

Europe is not an easy ally against China, former US trade representative Charlene Barshefsky says

The United States should realise that it is not going to be easy to get European allies on board to fight China because of the different priorities each country faces, a former top US trade negotiator said on Wednesday. “Europe might think of China differently from the United States, and therefore might be less capable of joining the United States’ effort” in its battle against China, said Charlene Barshefsky, former United States trade representative under the Clinton administration, at an event hosted by the US Chamber of Commerce. “As we look at the European picture, the constraints they are under, the general interests that we hold in common, Europe will end up doing a balancing act,” said Barshefsky, who had led the negotiation with China for its entry into the World Trade Organization in 2001. She is now chair at Parkside Global Advisors.Do you have questions about the biggest topics and trends from around the world? Get the answers with SCMP Knowledge, our new platform of curated content with explainers, FAQs, analyses and infographics brought to you by our award-winning team. And a balancing act “implies the US doesn’t get everything it wants”, said Barshefsky, referring to the difficulty the US is likely facing in convincing its European counterparts to curtail trades in technology, restrain business transactions and join in on sanctions against China. For one, Europe is highly dependent on China in its exports. In 2020, China overtook the US to become the top trading partner with the European Union, with goods and services traded reaching US$709 billion, compared to the US$671 billion traded between the EU and the US, according to Eurostat, the EU’s statistical office. “The US may want to retain its status as the sole superpower or as a superpower in the world. Europe is not going to fight with China in order to preserve America’s unique role in the world,” Barshefsky said. “That’s a US interest. It is not an interest Europe would necessarily fight China over.” Other considerations include the disagreement between northern Europe and southern Europe in their views about China, which could prevent the continent from speaking with one single voice when it comes to its stance against the Asian country. Breakthrough in chips materials could push back the ‘end’ of Moore’s Law Europe’s ambition to become strategically autonomous would also make the region less incentivised to follow the US. “If Europe wants to embrace strategical autonomy, how could it follow the United States?” Barshefsky asked. More importantly, many countries across the Atlantic have a different perception of threat regarding China, she said. “Europe does not feel a security risk from China,” she said. “Europe is not positioned in the Pacific the way the United States is. And the result is that Europe does not feel a sense of imminent threat, as the United States might be feeling. “Many Europeans believe, even indirectly, there is no threat from China.” Former secretary of state Mike Pompeo lobbied for years for European countries to exclude Chinese tech company Huawei from their 5G infrastructure for national security reasons. Germany held out for a long time, saying the right way to deal with China on 5G was to come up with new rules to ensure security. Even after Germany fell in line with the EU in April to pass stricter legislation on Huawei, critics doubted the rules would be fully implemented. Meanwhile, German Chancellor Angela Merkel pushed for an investment agreement to be signed with Beijing in December, sending a signal to the Biden administration of strong economic ties between Europe and China shortly before the new president was sworn in. Barshefsky warned “the United States may find, even with the best of intention on the part of all parties, that cooperation falls short of achieving particular goals”. China’s investment deal with Europe set for the freezer “You can be close friends but have significant differences with respect to certain interests,” she said. “You’re under different pressures and every country has its politics.” Europe has made it clear, however, that it is disturbed by China’s behaviour on human rights related issues, Chinese distorted trade and economic policies, and on fundamental values. The leaders in Europe are growing increasingly torn between its economic interests and the obligations to hold up human rights. European Union lawmakers plan to vote on Thursday to formally halt the Comprehensive Agreement on Investment it signed in December, in response to China’s human rights issues related to Xinjiang.More from South China Morning Post:US Senate advances bill to fund tech development to counter ChinaChina backs IP waiver for coronavirus vaccinesChina’s WTO reform aspirations take centre stage at globalisation seminarUS urges WHO to invite Taiwan to annual meeting, a move opposed by ChinaThis article Europe is not an easy ally against China, former US trade representative Charlene Barshefsky says first appeared on South China Morning PostFor the latest news from the South China Morning Post download our mobile app. Copyright 2021.

Cruise at the Duchess Theatre review: Jack Holden holds up this ’80s gay Soho story – Yahoo Lifestyle UK

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And we’re back. This dynamic one-man show at the Duchess Theatre, about a gay man on a hedonistic last hurrah in Eighties Soho, kicks off the West End’s gradual reopening. Cruise has more texture, variety and zip than most monologues and features some great music, but also longueurs and mawkish moments. Still, it’s a remarkable achievement for young actor Jack Holden, who wrote the script under lockdown and performs it with vast charm, empathy and energy.

The play covers similar territory to Russell T. Davies’s It’s a Sin but rather less decorously. Here we get the full-on sweaty, smeary, bitchy revelry of the Eighties London gay scene – and the horror as HIV starts to course through it.

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The story of Michael – diagnosed positive on February 29, 1984 – and the men he loved and lost is imparted to Jack, a cocky youngster manning a helpline in 2020. Thus Holden is able to present a range of vivid characters, and address the gap in awareness between the generations. It’s underscored by an eclectic soundscape orchestrated onstage by composer John Elliott.

Not all of the script rings true, including Michael’s belief that the fourth anniversary of his diagnosis would be his last night alive, based on a vague notion that nobody lived much beyond that. The self-consciously poetic passages are unwise. But there’s a wealth of detail about what London’s seedier square mile was like three decades ago, and how swiftly the faces, the pleasures, the music and the drugs changed. Parallels with the current crisis are deftly handled.

Most importantly, at the centre of Bronagh Lagan’s production is Holden himself, riffling through different personas as if through a deck of cards, singing quite beautifully, dancing like a loon. He establishes a potent rapport with the audience. And it’s that, the magic connection between onlooker and performer, that we’ve really missed for most of the past 14 months. What a delight to be out and in a theatre again, sharing that sensation with a room full of strangers.

To June 13: cruisetheplay.co.uk

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Cruise at the Duchess Theatre review: Jack Holden holds up this ’80s gay Soho story – Yahoo Eurosport UK

 (Getty Images)

(Getty Images)

And we’re back. This dynamic one-man show at the Duchess Theatre, about a gay man on a hedonistic last hurrah in Eighties Soho, kicks off the West End’s gradual reopening. Cruise has more texture, variety and zip than most monologues and features some great music, but also longueurs and mawkish moments. Still, it’s a remarkable achievement for young actor Jack Holden, who wrote the script under lockdown and performs it with vast charm, empathy and energy.

The play covers similar territory to Russell T. Davies’s It’s a Sin but rather less decorously. Here we get the full-on sweaty, smeary, bitchy revelry of the Eighties London gay scene – and the horror as HIV starts to course through it.

Getty Images

Getty Images

The story of Michael – diagnosed positive on February 29, 1984 – and the men he loved and lost is imparted to Jack, a cocky youngster manning a helpline in 2020. Thus Holden is able to present a range of vivid characters, and address the gap in awareness between the generations. It’s underscored by an eclectic soundscape orchestrated onstage by composer John Elliott.

Not all of the script rings true, including Michael’s belief that the fourth anniversary of his diagnosis would be his last night alive, based on a vague notion that nobody lived much beyond that. The self-consciously poetic passages are unwise. But there’s a wealth of detail about what London’s seedier square mile was like three decades ago, and how swiftly the faces, the pleasures, the music and the drugs changed. Parallels with the current crisis are deftly handled.

Most importantly, at the centre of Bronagh Lagan’s production is Holden himself, riffling through different personas as if through a deck of cards, singing quite beautifully, dancing like a loon. He establishes a potent rapport with the audience. And it’s that, the magic connection between onlooker and performer, that we’ve really missed for most of the past 14 months. What a delight to be out and in a theatre again, sharing that sensation with a room full of strangers.

To June 13: cruisetheplay.co.uk

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The Windmill Theatre is back – the Soho icon returns with a new look and (a few) more clothes

West End musicals are back! Everybody’s Talking About Jamie on flying the flag for London theatre

The best London theatre opening in 2021 that you can book now, from Cinderella to Frozen the Musical

NextAlan White’s body found – Dallas Voice

Alan White

Police hope to know cause of death soon but aren’t yet calling it murder

DAVID TAFFET | Senior Staff Writer
taffet@dallasvoice.com

The Dallas County Medical Examiner has yet to determine the cause of death for Alan White, the Dallas gay man who disappeared last October and whose body was found last week. But police hope to have more information soon, according to LGBT Police Liaison Chelsea Geist.

White’s body was found near Paul Quinn College in south Dallas on May 13. A survey crew working for the college found the remains in a wooded area and called 9-1-1. White disappeared on Oct. 22.

White and his husband, Rusty Jenkins, both left their home at around 4:45 a.m. Thursday, Oct. 22, driving separate cars on their way to separate gyms. White was last seen leaving the L.A. Fitness gym at CityPlace around 6 a.m. He was driving a black Porsche Macan, a loaner car from Park Place Motors.

From there, surveillance video from the RaceTrac gas station on Inwood Road at Maple Avenue in Oak Lawn showed him at a pump filling the car with gas. Another video showed him exiting the station onto Inwood, going north toward his home.

But he never reached home.

White was an executive with KPMG who worked from home and was scheduled to participate in a Zoom call from home at 7:30 a.m. Jenkins filed a missing person report at 11 a.m.

Park Place Motors was unable to locate the car, even though loaner cars are normally fitted with GPS trackers. The car was found a week later about a mile from where White’s body was eventually found. At the time, police said they were waiting for results to come back from SWIFS, Southwestern Institute of Forensic Sciences.

“It is a very difficult and time-consuming process unfortunately,” Geist said at the time.

In addition, White’s phone was found in the car and police were waiting on warrants from Apple to unlock the phone.

Then separate warrants were required for each application on the phone. There has been no word yet from police where they were in that process or if it revealed any clues.

Until his body was found, police were not calling the case a death, but a disappearance. Throughout the investigation, however, they have been considering all possibilities.

Now, because cause of death has not yet been determined, White’s death has still not been ruled a homicide. Because of the state of decomposition, determining cause of death may be difficult, but Geist said she hopes results would be available soon that can give detectives new clues.

While the case hasn’t been officially ruled a homicide, Crime Stoppers is offering a $5,000 reward for any information that leads to the arrest and indictment of a suspect in the case. In addition, a private fund has offered $20,000 for information on White’s disappearance and death.

While police are waiting for autopsy results, they are actively seeking information in the case and ask that anyone with information related to White’s death contact Detective Eric Barnes at 214-283-4818 or by email at eric.barnes@dallascityhall.com, referencing case 188623-2020.

Men’s Engagement Rings Emerge as Jewelry’s Hottest New Trend — Sharing the Bling is Now The Thing – PaperCity Magazine

When it comes to engagement rings, why should women get all the bling? A new trend is emerging as men celebrate their part in an upcoming wedding: Put a (glittering) ring on it.

Since 1886, Tiffany & Co. has featured diamond engagement rings for women. But now, for the first time in 135 years, the fabled jeweler is offering a unique collection of diamond engagement rings for men  — some are calling them “man-gagement rings” — as it taps into a new market for high-end jewelry amid changing attitudes about showcasing public commitment to each other and notions of equality.

The retailer, which is now owned by French luxury conglomerate LVMH, recently debuted its first-ever men’s engagement ring, with a selection that includes a single round-brilliant or emerald-cut diamond measuring up to five carats encased in a platinum or titanium setting. Prices for the Tiffany jewelry, which resembles a man’s signet ring, range from $15,600 to $278,500.

Tiffany men’s engagement ring
Tiffany & Co. has introduced a new collection of diamond engagment rings for men. (Photo courtesy of Tiffany & Co.)

The new collection of men’s rings, named after the company’s founder, Charles Lewis Tiffany, “honors the jeweler’s long-standing legacy in love and inclusivity, paving the way for new traditions to celebrate our unique love stories and honor our most cherished commitments to one another,” the company notes in a statement.

Texas is an important market for the new collection, with a large Love & Engagement section featuring the Tiffany True bridal collection and the Charles Tiffany Setting collection at Tiffany’s new store in Legacy West, opening in Plano on June 19. The rings are also available in Houston at The Galleria and Woodlands Tiffany stores,  in Dallas at NorthPark Center and Galleria Dallas, and in Fort Worth at The Shops at Clearfork.

While Tiffany in the first major jeweler to offer a collection of engagement rings aimed at men, such high-end Houston jewelers as Zadok Jewelers, Tenenbaum Jewelers, Deutsch Fine Jewelry and Valobra Master Jewelers are creating custom-made engagement rings according to a client’s wishes. Tenenbaum Jewelers is also currently designing a men’s six-carat emerald cut diamond engagement ring modeled after a ring owned by president and CEO Tony Bradfield. It retails for $98,800.

SHOP DE BEERS

Bradfield notes that an increasing number of men are looking for diamond jewelry with bold, strong design as they redefine what masculinity looks like right now.

“Many couples now see an engagement ring as a symbol of their mutual commitment, and men want to partake in that excitement,” Bradfield tells PaperCity. “As marriage has become more egalitarian, more women are doing the proposing. And because we have always had a wide selection of men’s rings as well as custom design services, Tenenbaum has also been a destination for same sex couples for many years.”

Such high-end jewelers as Bulgari, Cartier and De Beers also have recently fashioned men’s collections with more bling that can double as engagement rings and wedding bands.

Men’s Engagement Rings Take Off

In recent years, searches for male engagement rings have skyrocketed by more than 66 percent, according to a report by global fashion search platform Lyst. Male same sex couples are credited for part of the rise, but some famous heterosexual men, such as Ed Sheeran and Michael Bublé, have prominently been photographed wearing an engagement ring.

When Sheeran sported a ring before his marriage to longtime girlfriend Cherry Seaborn two years ago, onlookers assumed they had secretly married earlier. But Sherran explained, “I’m not married. I’m wearing an engagement ring as well. I feel like, you know, you both should.”

The ring was created by Seaborn.

More than a decade ago, Bublé flashed his engagement ring while on tour, telling fans that men’s engagement rings are a tradition in Argentina, the home country of his then-fiancée  Luisana Lopilato. (The couple married in 2011.)

Michael Buble engagement ring
Singer Michael Bublé was ahead of the trend, wearing an engagement ring in 2010 because he said it’s common to do that in Argentina, where his wife is from. (Courtesy photo)

According to Brides magazine, engagement rings first appeared in Ancient Rome to  signified a business contract or to affirm mutual love and obedience at a time when a woman was considered to be a man’s property. They were officially sanctioned by Pope Nicholas in the year 850.

Now, of course, in our more egalitarian times, engagement rings can symbolize mutual respect and commitment.

While the trend is just starting to take hold in Houston, wedding planner Deborah Elias, president of Elias Events, says it’s something she has noticed, particular from her gay male clients, for a while.

“Since men don’t get much in the way of jewelry options other than watches and cufflinks,” Elias says. “This really allows them to customize their rings to fit personalities and lifestyle.”

Blogilates Creator Cassey Ho on Following Your Dreams: “Never Let Who You Are Stand in the Way” – POPSUGAR

Blogilates creator Cassey Ho wasn’t always famous for Pilates: she started off playing tennis at a young age, and her dad was her coach, so naturally, she loved to move. In high school, Ho was preparing for a pageant and found Pilates because she’d seen the Mari Winsor Pilates DVDs. “I begged my mom to get it for me! I was amazed at how graceful and strong everyone was in these videos, and I wanted to be just like them,” Ho told POPSUGAR.

She practiced every single day after school and found herself so obsessed with this newfound way of movement. At first, she’d be so sore after each workout, but then she felt herself become strong. That’s when she got really hooked. Ho started teaching Pilates in college when a local studio helped her get her certification and offered her the opportunity to teach. That started it all, but her path to fitness fandom wasn’t always easy. Keep reading to learn about her experience being Vietnamese Chinese and how she learned to see her culture as one of the best parts of her identity.

PreviousAlan White’s body found – Dallas Voice

Alan White

Police hope to know cause of death soon but aren’t yet calling it murder

DAVID TAFFET | Senior Staff Writer
taffet@dallasvoice.com

The Dallas County Medical Examiner has yet to determine the cause of death for Alan White, the Dallas gay man who disappeared last October and whose body was found last week. But police hope to have more information soon, according to LGBT Police Liaison Chelsea Geist.

White’s body was found near Paul Quinn College in south Dallas on May 13. A survey crew working for the college found the remains in a wooded area and called 9-1-1. White disappeared on Oct. 22.

White and his husband, Rusty Jenkins, both left their home at around 4:45 a.m. Thursday, Oct. 22, driving separate cars on their way to separate gyms. White was last seen leaving the L.A. Fitness gym at CityPlace around 6 a.m. He was driving a black Porsche Macan, a loaner car from Park Place Motors.

From there, surveillance video from the RaceTrac gas station on Inwood Road at Maple Avenue in Oak Lawn showed him at a pump filling the car with gas. Another video showed him exiting the station onto Inwood, going north toward his home.

But he never reached home.

White was an executive with KPMG who worked from home and was scheduled to participate in a Zoom call from home at 7:30 a.m. Jenkins filed a missing person report at 11 a.m.

Park Place Motors was unable to locate the car, even though loaner cars are normally fitted with GPS trackers. The car was found a week later about a mile from where White’s body was eventually found. At the time, police said they were waiting for results to come back from SWIFS, Southwestern Institute of Forensic Sciences.

“It is a very difficult and time-consuming process unfortunately,” Geist said at the time.

In addition, White’s phone was found in the car and police were waiting on warrants from Apple to unlock the phone.

Then separate warrants were required for each application on the phone. There has been no word yet from police where they were in that process or if it revealed any clues.

Until his body was found, police were not calling the case a death, but a disappearance. Throughout the investigation, however, they have been considering all possibilities.

Now, because cause of death has not yet been determined, White’s death has still not been ruled a homicide. Because of the state of decomposition, determining cause of death may be difficult, but Geist said she hopes results would be available soon that can give detectives new clues.

While the case hasn’t been officially ruled a homicide, Crime Stoppers is offering a $5,000 reward for any information that leads to the arrest and indictment of a suspect in the case. In addition, a private fund has offered $20,000 for information on White’s disappearance and death.

While police are waiting for autopsy results, they are actively seeking information in the case and ask that anyone with information related to White’s death contact Detective Eric Barnes at 214-283-4818 or by email at eric.barnes@dallascityhall.com, referencing case 188623-2020.

Victorian Nationals Leader Peter Marsh to oppose City Builders Church members’ gay conversion motion – ABC News

The leader of the Victorian Nationals says he is aware that members of a Victorian church group within his party are in favour of gay conversion therapy.

The Nationals will be holding a state conference tomorrow in Wonthaggi, where a motion will put be put forward to condemn laws that ban gay conversion therapy.

In a statement to the ABC, the City Builders Church said it had a handful of politically engaged individuals among its ranks who had joined various parties over the past decade.

Echuca-based MP and Victorian Nationals leader Peter Walsh told ABC Central Victoria he would speak against the motion.

“I have had issues and concerns raised by some of our people in Gippsland,” he said.

“We absolutely condemn – absolutely condemn – any form of gay conversion and we supported that legislation going through the parliament.

The Victorian Government denounced the practice as deceptive and harmful when the bill was introduced.

The law empowers the Victorian Equal Opportunity and Human Rights Commission to respond to reports of gay conversion therapy.

It can also launch investigations where there is evidence of serious or systemic change or suppression practices.

Someone who causes injury to another through change or suppression practices can face up to 10 years in jail.

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A church says its members have expressed concern that they can’t practice their faith, and parent as they want, under new laws.(

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‘Great faith’ in ‘right decisions’

The City Builders Church said 12 of its 120 members had joined the National Party.

The motion to be put forward at the state conference condemns the Victorian Government for passing the Change and Suppression (Conversion) Practice Prohibition Bill.

It demands its rejection or repeal and calls on the Federal Government to investigate whether it is allowed under the Constitution.

The church said in recent times many of its members had expressed concern about the impact various legislative changes were having on them, their ability to parent and their freedom to live out their beliefs.

“There is a groundswell of Christians and conservative people across our state becoming politically involved because they do not feel adequately represented by any political party,” it said in a statement.

It also said it was surprised National Party leaders would go against democracy and target people over their religious beliefs, or because they were members of a church.

But Mr Walsh told ABC Central Victoria’s breakfast program that putting the vote to the membership was the democratic thing to do.

“I have great faith that the members of the National Party will make the right decisions when those sorts of issues are put in front of them,” he said.

Game Plan: Philly’s queer sports teams look forward to summer – Pennsylvania Capital-Star

Members of the Philadelphia Falcons Soccer Club (Photo via The Philadelphia Gay News).

By Sebastian Fortino

PHILADELPHIA — Last year, the Philadelphia Gay News spoke with our local LGBTQ sports teams to see what their seasons would look like during the COVID shutdown. The answer was less than promising: schedules changed, venues relocated, tournaments postponed, and some didn’t even have a season because of health safety during the pandemic.

After all, team sports are best played live with an excited gathering of participants and fans, not via Zoom.

Now that the COVID vaccines have proven effective and life is somewhat returning to normal, it’s time to play ball again, with teams of course following the City of Philadelphia’s guidelines regarding the virus.

“Membership this year has returned strong as we started hosting pickup and putting Falcons teams together to participate in local soccer leagues,” said Karen Liao, president of the Falcons Soccer Club, “last year we really didn’t play any soccer.”

Her group instead improvised by playing “soccer tennis.” The Falcon’s played “tennis” using a soccer ball, a small net, and to keep with the rules of the game, refrained from using hands to serve the ball over the net.

“This was easy to keep socially distanced and super fun! We also sold a trans awareness soccer jersey and donated the proceeds to Morris Home. This year we plan to fundraise with the Attic Youth Center.”

Matt Forrest, commissioner of Stonewall Sports Philadelphia and has been with the group for five years, is excited to welcome back local athletes. Last year, online events such as trivia and yoga replaced live games, events, or meetings.

“This year we were excited to come back in April hosting one day game events for kickball, volleyball, bocce as well as offering running and yoga. We were really excited to see the interest from our members and how quickly spots filled up.”

To keep everyone safe and encourage vaccination, Forrest and Stonewall are “working with local organizations and businesses like the Mazzoni Center and the Tavern Group to spread the word to our members about opportunities to get vaccinated and ensure everyone has the information they need on how to do so.”

“We are excited to be back on the field,” Jennifer Brown of the City of Brotherly Love Softball League shared. “Our season started on April 19th and we have been playing every Sunday since then with the exception of one rainout. We will continue playing through the end of June and are even able to host our Memorial Day Weekend tournament, the Liberty Bell Classic, with teams from a few other cities.”

This stands in great contrast to last year’s softball season, which saw no games. However, one of the league’s teams, Triple Play, did venture out to a tournament in Tampa, FL. For Philly’s queer softball “fanatics” (pun intended).

Brown was happy to share the team placed second. The organization has reduced player fees this year to help players who may be struggling financially due to the pandemic shutdown. While they as of yet have not selected honorable causes this year, they plan to look at any remaining funds post-season to see what they may be able to donate.

“We did create an internal scholarship program that allows our players to donate to a scholarship fund for players who cannot afford their fees,” Brown said, adding that “we received a lot of donations that not only helped players this year, but will help us continue to offer scholarships to players in need next year.”

So far there is no schedule, but Brown wants readers to come out to games on Sunday, which take place from 9AM to 4PM. Those interested can visit their Facebook page for locations.

For the Philadelphia Gryphons, Philly’s chapter of the International Gay Rugby Association, normalcy will begin this year. Yet, things won’t be completely back to normal until the 2022 season.

“We not only missed out on our competition with local teams but also any chance of seeing our fellow IGR teams in the Northeast Region,” stated Andy Kinney who serves as Philadelphia Gryphons president. “Going into the 2020 season we were preparing for the Bingham Cup, which is an international gay rugby tournament held every two years, and was to be held August of 2020 in Ottawa and were not surprised, but disappointed, that it was postponed for the next two-year cycle in 2022.”

But Kinney, and other leaders of LGBTQ amateur sports realize this precaution was for the best. “Everything that has been postponed or canceled has been done with the best intentions of everyone involved and with the direction and guidance of local and national government precautions.”

Throughout the year, Kinney and his club have had a variety of outlets to keep themselves united despite social distancing and the like. And, not just virtual get-togethers such as Zoom happy hours, although such events were part of keeping up morale. Kinney reports they had a successful virtual food drive with Philabundance.

They worked with other clubs to provide toys for Toys for Tots at a local children’s hospital. They worked with a local charter school to help with their community garden project, a children’s coat drive, and helped their back-to-school program as they returned from COVID virtual learning.

And, yes: there will be rugby games, although the season is not going to be traditional. The Gryphons hope to participate in small friendly matches with other International Gay Rugby teams from nearby Baltimore and D.C. area.

“Dates are to be determined but will be sometime in June,” Kinney said, before echoing what all local players must be feeling this year. “Many of us simply want to get back out there, dust off the cobwebs and play the game that we all love.”

Sebastian Fortino is a reporter for the Philadelphia Gay News, where this story first appeared

Opinion | Pink triangle: reclaiming a symbol of hate – Washington Blade

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Recently, I listened to “Pride and Prejudice” by Jane Austen on Audible. Savoring every word, I was transported to 19th century, Regency-era England. Immersed in the world of Elizabeth Bennet, Mr. Darcy and formal balls, I almost escaped from our troubled 21st century universe. As I sipped tea, racism, transphobia – past and present injustice – slipped from my mind.

Until a headline from The New York Times flashed on my screen: “A Jane Austen Museum Wants to Discuss Slavery. Will Her Fans Listen?”

This Jane Austen fan is listening. Nothing pricks up your ears more than seeing one of your favorite authors (a literary icon, no less) connected with slavery.

Last month, Jane Austen’s House, a museum on the life and work of Jane Austen, said that it would update its displays to include information on Austen’s and her family’s connection to slavery. (The museum in the English village of Chawton, has been only open virtually during the pandemic. It reopens for in-person visitors on May 19.) Austen, who lived from 1775 to 1817, resided in Chawton from 1809 until shortly before she died at age 41.

The exhibits reveal that George Austen, Jane Austen’s father, before he became a pastor, was a trustee of an Antigua sugar plantation. The displays note that Austen and her family, by drinking tea, eating foods with sugar and wearing clothing made of cotton, enjoyed products of the Atlantic slave trade.

Information is included on Austen’s views of abolitionists: Some scholars believe that Austen was against slavery. In 1807, the slave trade ended in the British Empire when King George signed the Act for the Abolition of the Slave Trade into law.

Reaction to the new exhibits was fast and furious, The New York Times reported. “Woke madness,” thundered The Express. The Daily Mail said the museum had launched “a revisionist attack” and a “BLM-inspired interrogation” of Austen’s ritual of imbibing tea.

If you believe these rants, you’d think that Jane Austen’s House was trying to cancel Jane Austen: that we should stop appreciating her work because she drank tea and her family was connected to the slave trade.

Of course, this isn’t the intention of the museum that celebrates Austen’s work. Visitors increasingly ask about Austen and her family’s connection to the slave trade, Jane Austen’s House says in a statement. “It is therefore appropriate that we share the information and research that already exists on her connections to slavery and its mention in her novels,” the museum says.

It’s tempting to dismiss this dust-up as a tempest in a teapot. But that would be wrong.

This controversy calls our attention to one of the pressing issues of our time: How do we examine the prejudices of our icons, and should we cancel them and/or their work?

I’m thinking about two LGBTQ icons: Walt Whitman, born on May 31, 1819, and Adrienne Rich who died on March 27, 2012.

In his poetry, Whitman embraced democracy and inclusion. For his time, he wrote with remarkable openness about sexuality. If you’re queer, you feel represented in his poetry.

Yet, in his later life, Whitman believed racist pseudo scientific claims. He called Black people “baboons” and “wild brutes.”

Few poets are as beloved by the LGBTQ community as poet Adrienne Rich. Her poems have been a lifeline for queer women and gay men.

Yet, Rich advised Janice Raymond, who, in 1979 wrote the transphobic book “The Transsexual Empire.” Raymond wrote that transgender people “colonize feminist identification, culture, politics, and sexuality.”

In the face of racism and transphobia existing side by side with genius, Whitman’s dictum about the self containing multitudes and contradictions rings painfully true.

I’d be lying if I said I had a solution to this muddle.

But if we’ve learned anything since George Floyd’s death, it’s that we all have conscious and unconscious biases. If we cancelled artists who have prejudices from racism to transphobia, what art would be left?

Yet, if we don’t confront our cultural heroes’ prejudices, how will we live with ourselves or work toward justice? What type of art would be created?

I only know: we must live and struggle with these vitally important questions.

Kathi Wolfe, a writer and a poet, is a regular contributor to the Blade.

LDP delays approval of LGBT bill amid cautious view from conservatives – The Japan Times

Amid caution from conservative lawmakers, the ruling Liberal Democratic Party on Thursday opted to delay discussion on a draft bill to promote citizens’ understanding of LGBT people, rather than approve it as planned.

Their cautious view was voiced at an LDP meeting after the draft bill for promoting the understanding of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people was revised to include the phrase “discrimination will not be tolerated.”

The party’s Special Mission Committee on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity made the revision in line with a request from the main opposition Constitutional Democratic Party of Japan and others.

The LDP will hold discussions on the draft bill again next week.

“We will create a tolerant society that accepts diversity,” Tomomi Inada, chair of the committee, told the meeting. “Only the Liberal Democratic Party, a conservative party, can do that.”

In the two-hour meeting, proponents of the bill stressed that measures to protect struggling citizens are necessary.

Meanwhile, opponents spoke out against the inclusion of the “discrimination” passage.

The committee’s original draft of the bill, featuring a clause to oblige the government to draw up a basic plan for the promotion of citizens’ understanding of LGBT people, made no mention of discrimination.

The phrase on the rejection of discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity was included in the bill’s basic principle after the CDP demanded that a ban on discrimination be stipulated.

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